My Daughter’s Struggle

You have heard that it was said, “You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.” But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,‭‭ 
Matthew‬ ‭5:43-44

My daughter chose this verse of her own accord as a memory verse because she had been struggling with another person who was being continually unkind to her. It doesn’t seem that there was anything that she did to provoke it initially, but as we talked through how she was handling it, she recognized that she had been making some mistakes in retaliation because of her hurt. 

I am so encouraged that she took the initiative to find what she needed from God’s word. As we have talked about this verse and its application each morning for the past two weeks, I have seen her heart change and soften towards this person. Though she has wanted to be unkind back, she decided to do her best to not talk badly about this person, find opportunities to show kindness, and ask her friends to do the same.

As a mother, it is hard not to just jump in when your child is having a problem. I felt it best in this circumstance to wait and see how everything would work out between these kids. I’m happy to say, that as of yesterday, my daughter informed me that apologies were made on both sides and everything is fine. Other than parents instructing their kids individually on the right thing to do, it seems that they were able to work it out without direct parent involvement. 

Stepping back was very difficult for me, but I know I need to do this more and more as she gets older and let her make her own decisions and mistakes with the best guidance that I can give. She did fail in not doing the right thing at times, but me allowing her failure gave us the opportunity to talk about what she was feeling, find a way to make it right and do better, pray about it together, and provoked her own decision to change without me forcing it. 

We both have learned and grown a lot from this situation, and I’m so proud of her, especially for looking to the wisdom of Jesus for instruction!

Father, thank you for the example and words of Jesus that provide guidance in handling difficult situations. I commit to love, bless, do good, and pray for those who mistreat me. I struggle with being perfect in this, so please forgive me when I allow my feelings to provoke me to be unkind or speak evil of another. Whenever I mess up, I will do whatever it takes to humble myself and make it right as I continually look to Your word to soften my heart in forgiveness and compassion of others remembering that I too fail in keeping Your commandments. I will do better and learn from my mistakes looking unto Jesus as my teacher. In Him, Amen.

Truth in love,

4 thoughts on “My Daughter’s Struggle

  1. With this story, you surely resurrected memories from long ago my mind. I pray for God to continue to bless you in guiding your house and always remember, It will not depart when they are old.

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